Q&A

A little while ago, someone asked me:

Why do guys say they love someone, and then they date another? Why waste your time with a girl who you don't love? Why not spend that time with the one you do?


It made me think a minute, and I have what I think is a sufficent answer.


It is common now, that very few people know what love is. The word "love" is thrown out of mouths as if it was a common word, such as No, Yes, or I. Most guys, and even girls, have yet to know what Love is.

Each person has a different time where they meet who they really love, and sometimes, people who wait for their "perfect match" can often never love. Why? Because a person that matches all your expectations is almost impossible to find.

Mixed signals is just confusion, they don't know if they like you or not, or they do, but afraid they won't afterwards.

Also, when it comes to dating in school, it is hard, because you rarely see two people who know each other extremely well dating. Its more frequent that people just like how they see you, from your appearance physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Why people don't stay in love is because they like what they see, and once they start knowing their boyfriend/girlfriend extremely well, they may find more things they don't like than traits they do like; which causes difficulty.

There's also the fact of reputations. Some people will go out because they want to boost their reps, or their popularity. This causes difficulty also when a boy/girl likes someone who is in a different group, and is simply afraid to admit that they like him/her, so they set out mixed signals.

School is harsh and so is love.

You have to find love for yourself, its hard, and its like an endless journey, and sometimes, you have things that will decrease the relationship as well as boost it.

When Clary and I first met in third grade, I admit I had the biggest crush on her, and once we started to get to know each other, I saw her more as a sister than a girlfriend. Now I see her as something more, maybe because she's pregnant with my child (most likely) or that we realized that we've liked each other for a long time, and since we're so close, we can deal with each other 24/7. I love Clary, and I have to say that I wouldn't give her up for anything.

Yea, things get awkward, but once you pass the awkward feelings, you see what you really like and dislike. Not everyone finds who they will love in the future when they're young, its different for everyone.

Let me just give you a tip: Save your big choices for the ones you really think you love and that they love you back. I'd hate to see any of the people reading this' lives thrown away because of a wrong decision.

I've made my mistakes, and I will live with them, but I've also had prep work for this kind of stuff (another benefit of having seven woman in the household and only two men). So think before you act, then you won't regret it.


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~Ash